It’s understandable that you experienced a mix of emotions, including shock, grief, and confusion, as you watched them being escorted into prison custody. Losing a loved one and grappling with the reality of their incarceration can be a deeply painful and challenging experience. And these anxieties are always worse on the first night.

Your concern for their well-being and the desire to support them during their prison journey will be evident. It’s important to remember that once someone is incarcerated, their well-being and safety become the responsibility of the prison system. While you may have worries and questions about how he they will be treated, it’s generally advisable to follow the appropriate procedures and channels to ensure their needs are met.

Each prison has its own procedures for approving contact details and facilitating calls and emails. Engaging with the chaplaincy and utilising welfare check services can offer some reassurance and connection to your loved one.

If you ever have concerns about your loved one’s health or well-being while they are in prison, reaching out to the safer custody office through the prison’s website is a recommended step to seek assistance and information.

Remember that supporting someone through their incarceration can be emotionally demanding, and it’s important to prioritise your own well-being as well. Seeking support from friends, family, or professional counselling services can provide a helpful outlet for processing your feelings and navigating this challenging situation.