Why staying silent can cost you everything — and how asking the right questions could protect your heart, your family, and your future.
Why We Must Ask Questions, Challenge Red Flags, and Learn from Lived Experience 🚩
At Unseen Victims, we walk alongside people navigating one of the most isolating and traumatic journeys imaginable—supporting someone who has been arrested, charged, or convicted. It’s a path filled with fear, confusion, stigma, and heartbreak. But one of the hardest truths to confront is this: very few of us have ever met the “monster” described in court.
More often, we’ve known them as a partner, sibling, parent, or friend. They’ve shown love, offered comfort, or played a trusted role in our lives. So when the system calls them something else—abuser, offender, rapist—it feels impossible to reconcile. In that state of emotional shock, loyalty and love can lead us to shut down our doubts and blindly accept their innocence.
But we urge you DON’T STOP ASKING QUESTIONS .
At Unseen Victims, we’ve supported countless individuals who initially believed “they could never have done that.” Only later did they discover histories of violence, abuse, or deceit—sometimes only revealed during court proceedings. One common thread in many stories is this: the person accused didn’t want their loved ones at the trial.
Let us be very clear:
If someone you are supporting insists that you don’t attend court, it is almost always because they fear what will be exposed.
Police interviews are private. Their contents are not publicly disclosed until a trial begins—when it’s too late to unhear the truth.
READ ANNIE’S STORY HERE:
https://emmawells786.substack.com/p/he-wasnt-who-i-thought-he-was-a-warning?r=41y9i2
Your Journey is Your Own — But You Don’t Have to Walk It Alone
Accessing the lived experiences of others isn’t about comparing pain—it’s about wisdom, survival, and sometimes, rescue. When people share their stories with us, they do so in the hope that it might help someone else avoid the deep betrayal, isolation, and grief they faced.
So if you’re at the start of this journey, unsure what to believe, believe this: you are not alone. You are not foolish for needing answers. You are not weak for asking questions. You are simply someone trying to navigate something unimaginable.
And we are here. Every step of the way.
Read more true accounts from the indirect victims in Unseen Victims, Emma Wells – available on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/63g72bM
